When someone does something that you don't like how do you respond? How should you respond? Should you get angry and stay angry? Is it a sign of a bad day? Is the person who did this responsible? Should you be mad at him/her? Now that it is over are you going to continue to blame and make excuses? Is any one else really responsible for your experience? Did they create this experience or did you?
The real questions you want to ask your self in this situation, at the moment of the experience is...
Do I want to be right/angry or happy? What will make me happy?
You see you can get mad, you have that right, you can blame others, hold a grudge, or look for more reasons as to why things should go wrong. But these things wont make you happy. They might make you right, but not happy.
Those other people who did whatever it was that made you mad. They are part of your reality but they can not effect your reality and they can't create for you. If they change and stop doing the things that upset you then you will find someone new to validate your belief. If you leave and move to a new environment you will find new people to make you angry and validate your belief.
Your reality wont change until you change how you respond to it. You can get a new doctor but he will just make the same mistakes with your prescriptions as the last one did.
No matter who is a part of your reality, if you want your reality to change you have to change, not anyone else, only you. The thing is if you don't change and they do, then they will stop being a part of your reality. (Just a thought, but if you love that person do you think it will make you happy to have them stop being a part of your reality?)
So first, start to respond differently and then start to think about what you want. It's so easy and it will make you feel so much better. Plus, the best thing of all is you will start to see some of those things that you want, including having the people around you respond differently, in ways that you can be grateful for and you can't be grateful and mad at the same time, it's impossible. Be happy in the face of what happens even if it's something you can't appreciate and you will stop having negative experiences. As you change so will others but you have to go first, you can't hold others responsible for your happiness, or expect them to change to make you happy, it just doesn't work that way. As I said before
"change how you respond to your experience and your experiences will change."
Be happy, laters
